WHY CLARIFYING Your Energy Field Matters

Many people are doing all the “right” things—resting, journaling, eating well, working on their mindset—yet still feel heavy, overwhelmed, or not quite themselves. Often, this isn’t because something is wrong with them. It’s because their energy field isn’t fully clarified.

Your energy field is not just a concept. It’s the living interface between your nervous system, emotions, thoughts, body, and the world around you. When it’s clear, you feel more like you. When it’s not, life can start to feel confusing, draining, or oddly difficult to navigate.

What Happens When We Carry Energy That No Longer Serves Us

Carrying energy that doesn’t belong to us often means we’re holding emotions, expectations, beliefs, or survival responses that were learned in the past or absorbed from others. At one time, these patterns may have been protective. Over time, however, they can quietly weigh on the system and show up in subtle but persistent ways.

Emotionally

• Feeling overwhelmed by other people’s moods or needs

• Guilt, responsibility, or emotional weight that feels “too much”

• Sudden emotional swings that don’t seem connected to your own life

• Difficulty feeling joy, ease, or lightness even when things are “fine”

• A sense of being emotionally crowded or entangled

Mentally

• Racing or looping thoughts

• Difficulty focusing or making decisions

• Overthinking conversations, reactions, or outcomes

• Feeling mentally scattered or foggy

• Absorbing others’ beliefs, fears, or expectations as if they were your own

Physically

• Fatigue that doesn’t fully resolve with rest

• Tension in the shoulders, chest, jaw, or belly

• Feeling “wired and tired”

• Sensitivity to environments, noise, or stimulation

• A sense of heaviness or depletion in the body

Energetically

• Feeling ungrounded or not fully present

• Losing your sense of self in relationships or group settings

• Difficulty having boundaries without effort

• Feeling like your energy leaks or gets pulled outward

• Not fully inhabiting your body or your life

None of this means you’re weak, broken, or “bad at boundaries.” Often, it means your system learned—at some point—that staying connected to others, staying alert, or staying responsible was safer than staying fully in yourself.

Clearing Your Energy Supports Natural Boundaries

Clearing your energy field isn’t about becoming closed, detached, or cutting yourself off from others. It’s about returning to your own internal rhythm. When your energy is clear and settled, boundaries become a natural expression rather than something you have to enforce.

From this place:

• You respond instead of react

• Empathy stays present without turning into absorption

• Boundaries arise organically, without effort

• Your body softens because it’s no longer managing what isn’t yours

You can still care deeply and remain connected—without carrying what doesn’t belong to you.

A Tapping Exercise to Release What Isn’t Yours

You can use the following gentle tapping sequence after reading this post. There’s no need to force anything—just notice what you feel as you go. If you have tried tapping yet, you can find the instructions HERE or book a chat with me to find out more about how tapping can support more clarity in your life. CLICK HERE TO BOOK.

[tapping on the side of your hand]

Even if my energy feels mixed up with things that aren’t mine,
I acknowledge how my system learned to do this.

Even if I’ve been holding emotions, beliefs, or responsibilities that don’t belong to me,
I honour that this once felt necessary.

Even if my body and nervous system are still sorting out what’s me and what’s not,
I’m open to more clarity and ease now.

[tapping through the points]

I notice where my energy feels scattered or crowded.
I notice how my body responds when I imagine coming back to myself.
I allow myself to gently release what isn’t mine to carry.
I give my system permission to keep only what is truly me.
I let my energy settle back into my body, my space, my rhythm.
I don’t have to do this perfectly.
I can let this happen gradually and safely.
I choose a little more clarity right now.

Take a breath. Notice any shift, even a small one.

Going Deeper: Why Some Energy Is Hard to Let Go Of

If clarifying your energy brings relief—but the same patterns keep returning—it’s not a failure. Often, what pulls other people’s energy in isn’t conscious. It’s driven by old programs and beliefs such as:

• “I’m responsible for others’ feelings”

• “Staying alert keeps me safe”

• “If I disconnect, I’ll lose connection or love”

• “My needs come last”

• “I have to manage the environment to feel okay”

These beliefs live not just in the mind, but in the nervous system and energy field. Until they’re gently unwound, the system may continue to attract and hold onto what isn’t truly yours.

This is where deeper EFT and energy work can help—by addressing the roots, not just the symptoms.

If you’re ready to explore what your system is holding, why it learned to do so, and how to safely release it, I invite you to go deeper with me. Together, we work to clarify your energy at the source—so being yourself feels simpler, steadier, and more natural.

You don’t need to protect yourself from life.
You get to live inside your own energy again.